Ever heard of the term "hits the spot"? - in everyday life, certain things just hit the spot, whether it is a thirst-quenching Pepsi on a scorching day or perhaps the best damn burger you've ever had after working out and being productive - some things just hit the spot.
Here at GIDDI - we hit the spot - the P Spot specifically! Butt - What exactly is the P Spot we hear you asking? Let's dive into all you need to know about the male G Spot - from where to find it to how to stimulate it.
What IS the P Spot?
The famed G-spot is a place that everyone knows of but not everyone has found, and it can lead to explosive leg-shaking orgasms in those that are biologically female... You might find yourself asking if women have one, then why don't men? Truth be told, they do - it is just a little-known fact and not widely discussed or spoken about.
Known as the P-spot, this little but powerful spot is more widely known as the prostate. It is a walnut sized gland that can be located just below the bladder and urethra, aside from being the number one male pleasure zone it is a gland that serves a medical purpose - to create seminal fluid! Biologically, it helps sperm live long and prosper!
The prostate is sensitive to stimulation as it is full of sensitive nerve endings - according to experts, there are almost as many nerve endings in the prostate as there are in the female clitoris! Many who have experienced prostate-induced orgasms report that they are earth-shattering and out of this world.
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Finding The Male G-Spot
Now that you know what it offers and are curious about how to find it - let's dive into its location!
The P spot, prostate, male g-spot, whatever you want to call it, is located under the bladder and urethra, meaning the best way to find it is through the anus.
Receiving anal stimulation and its location has created a lot of stigma around it - leading to a dire lack of accurate and safe advice on how to find it.
If you are interested in locating your prostate or your partners, here is how you can find it.
Arousal is key!
As the prostate is directly related to reproductive functions and is the key to producing the majority of seminal fluid, it is easier to find when aroused. Much like the penis swells and becomes erect, the prostate also swells.
The Proof is in the Pressure
Placing pressure on the prostate, whether directly through anal penetration or indirectly through external pressure, can produce intense feelings of sexual pleasure.
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If you are interested in finding your p spot externally through pressure, you can find it by placing pressure on your taint. (that's the small strip of tissue between the scrotum and your butt!)
If you have long nails or your partner has long-manicured claws - we recommend using the flat part of the knuckle and some lube to press the taint while using penile stimulation gently.
Pro-tip: Explore this area while seated, slouch on a couch and bring one foot up to nestle on the couch and explore different positions, varying the pressure and location that you are putting the pressure; use your finger to gently place pressure across the taint and down toward the anus.
Exquisitely Internal
Now, the P-spot was truly designed to be stimulated from within! It is the reason why prostate play is such a pleasurable experience. It makes butt play an underrated power play in sex and terms of penile orgasms - way more explosive and intense.
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When exploring internally stimulating the prostate, it is advisable to go easy - this isn't a race or a marathon; instead, it is a slow exploration - a hike if you must - you will experience rough terrains and times where you need to back up a bit.
The peak is the goal, not the speed when you first start exploring prostate-induced orgasm.
Start with clean hands and some lube. Use a finger to explore the premium, and slowly rub and explore it. When you feel ready to insert - slowly insert at a slow and leisurely pace, relaxed face = relaxed butt hole so losen up your face and try not to tense up.
Only go as far as you can or want to - usually to the first knuckle of the finger or about two inches. If you are the giver - be gentle and communicate with the receiver!
Feel around for the walnut-sized prostate gland. Now assess if you are comfortable or need a little more lube or where you want to go from there -- continuing your exploration with a gentle rubbing motion over the prostate or simply exploring it further more toward the direction of the belly button instead of towards the spine.
Couple it with a bit of penis stimulation and see how explosive the prostate orgasm is!
How to Stimulate the Prostate Gland?
There are a multitude of ways to stimulate the prostate gland. From sex toys such as a prostate massager to fingers or even a simple butt plug.
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There is a little something for everyone! However, it is commonly known that the best way to stimulate it is internally and with a bit of pressure.
Once you have found the p-spot - you might want to try other methods, such as a sex toy or two or perhaps incorporating anal play into your bedroom routines with your partner. You will know you have found the prostate when you feel a similar pressure to the need to pee!
Other Pleasure Spots to Try
The erogenous zones! Now, not everyone wants to dive right into the butt! That is okay, there are other errogenous zones you can either add to your p spot play or on their own. Gently explore the taint, scrotum, and perineum. If you are interested in finding out more about the male erogenous zones, check out our blog here!
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Giving Prostate Massage - Tips If You're the Giver
Go easy! Not everyone is as enthusiastic about butts and butt play as the girl's group chat is! While men don't always want to talk about the male g spot and enjoy it being stimulated - it is a subject you might want to broach with your partner if you feel like exploring and deepening your sexual pleasure and connection.
Always talk about it first - no one wants a finger up the butt without warning!
If your partner is not comfortable (hey we all have our kinks and boundaries) ask if they would be interested in external prostate stimulation through taint massage!
Always use LUBE and lots of good quality lube at that! (Need a good lube? Shop the essentials here)
Trial and error is necessary - trying a different position can also help, and be aware of your partner checking in to see how they are feeling and if they are enjoying it. If they aren't, stop - try again at a later stage!
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The Bottom Line – Male G Spot
Here is some of the best advice you can have when finding and making the best out of your p spot.
Nothings Happening
If you are finding that you don't experience any pleasure from prostate stimulation, you might not have the right spot. Alternatively, you might find that the excitement can be a little too much at once. Give it a rest and try again another day.
Taking a break and returning to find the spot at a later stage can be helpful in truly seeing it. Another tip to remember is that it is much easier to find when aroused. That way, you can be sure that it is the p spot as the prostate gland swells to the touch!
Is P-Spot Stimulation Painful?
Nope - the first few times, you can experience minor discomfort - however, prostate stimulation should not feel painful and excruciating. If it is - stop!
The usual sources of pain include a lack of lube, being too rough, or untrimmed fingernails (try cutting and filing them down so they have no sharp edges).
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How Can I Incorporate My P-Spot into Sex?
Prostate play is an excellent addition to any regular sexual activities. Incorporating them is a lot easier than you can imagine.
If you are keen to explore it with a partner, talk to them about it; if you have not yet explored your p spot yourself and want to try it out, it is best to discuss it with your partner in a neutral setting. If they agree and want to explore it with you, remember to try a few sex positions to find what works for you.
Whether just massaging the prostate from the outside or internal stimulation, the options are up to you - however, you need to make sure you and your partner are comfortable.
Risks To Consider With P Spot Stimulation
There are risks to everything in life! However, prostate massages and anal stimulation are relatively safe sexual acts that can be incorporated into your sexual routine without worry.
The risks include:
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Tissue injury from vigorous prostate massage - this can hurt the anal tissues.
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Scratches - TRIM your nails and file them to remove sharp edges that can cut the tissues!
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Friction injuries from a dire lack of lube. Don't be afraid of lube! If you are using a prostate toy, make sure that the lube you are using is silicone-safe!
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Infection - if you are using toys - it is vital to keep them clean or to clean them properly after use - especially if you are sharing toys with a partner. Improperly cleaned toys can spread bacteria and lead to a nasty infection - you can also sterilize your toys with a UV sterilizer AFTER cleaning.
Overall, the major risks of prostate play are mostly due to human error and sometimes a little too much excitement. This is why we recommend taking it easy and using a process of trial and error to ensure you are not pushing your own limits until you understand them!
Benefits of P Spot Play
Prostate massage has several medical benefits aside from the pleasure alone (which, if you ask us, is enough of a reason!). Prostate or p-spot play can help reduce or improve several medical concerns.
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Prostate cancer
Perhaps one of the most essential benefits of prostate massage is its ability to help reduce the risk of prostate cancer! This type of cancer impacts one in every six men in the US alone, making it a common and painful disease to live with.
Experts recommend that prostate massage once a month is a good way to help reduce your risks of prostate cancer!
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Erectile dysfunction
Stimulating the male g spot is often a treatment for erectile dysfunction! Milking the prostate can help clear the prostatic duct and lead to a lower occurrence of erectile dysfunction.
Read more on this here.
Reducing a Swollen Prostate
As you age, you might find that you struggle with a swollen prostate that can make urination painful while reducing the flow of urine. Symptoms of a condition known as chronic prostatitis - where the prostate becomes inflamed and swollen can also be alleviated through prostate massage.
So whether you are indeed in need of sexual pleasure or need help managing the above p spot, play can offer you both!
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Top Prostate Massagers for Prostate Stimulation
Thor 360° Rotating Prostate Massage
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For the girthier hands-free experience! The Thor is the ultimate prostate massager if you like a snug fit with a rotating head and earth-shatteringly strong vibrations! It is more than a prostate massager as it offers wireless controls, so you don't need to do anything but lie there and enjoy the bliss!
Looking for a full kit? Shop the Thor Master Bundle here!
Tomo II Come Hither Prostate Massage
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Much like the OG Tomo, this 'Come hither' p-spot stimulator offers the perfect amount of pressure while delivering the best perineum massage you could imagine possible. It is ideal for beginners or pros and has a wireless remote for hands-free pleasure!
The best part? It comes in a bundle too!
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Not sure what prostate massager will be best for you? We created the GIDDI Product Quiz to help you find the best toy for your needs; it takes less than five minutes and can help you find the perfect toy!
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The Difference Between Penile and Prostate Orgasms
Penile orgasms are incredible. However, they are not as earth-shattering as prostate orgasms. Prostate orgasms tend to be more intense and are sometimes not an every-time-you-have-sex kind of orgasm. Instead, they offer much stronger body sensations and muscle contractions throughout the body with a more intense sensation.
Find The P Spot for Explosive Orgasms!
Whether you are new to prostate play or a seasoned pro who can work the prostate gland with ease, one thing is for sure: the prostate is an underrated and extremely sensitive gland that everyone should be familiar with. It can add a new layer of intimacy to your existing sex life while offering explosive full body orgasms!