Are Fantasy Dildos Just for Women?

At a Glance

• Are fantasy dildos just for women? No. They're usually marketed to women, but nothing about the design is gendered.
• What a fantasy dildo is: Any dildo modeled on something other than human anatomy, from tentacles and aliens to monsters and dragons.
• What men get out of one: A curved, textured shaft is a strong fit for prostate play, and a suction base makes it hands-free.
• How to choose: Silicone, a forward curve, a sensible widest diameter, a safe base, and the texture level you actually want.
• Where to start: Medium, not huge. You can always size up later.

No, fantasy dildos aren't just for women. They're marketed to women more often than not, but nothing about the design is gendered. The curve and texture that make a fantasy dildo fun also happen to suit prostate play very well. If you've wondered whether this category is for you, it is.

Here's what a fantasy dildo actually does for a man, and how to pick one.

What Counts as a Fantasy Dildo?

A fantasy dildo is any dildo modeled on something other than human anatomy. The big families:

• Tentacle and octopus designs, with tapers and suckers. Start with how the tentacle dildo went from niche to normal.
• Alien and creature designs, with knots and bulbs. The alien dildo has an unfair reputation as a gimmick.
• Monster designs, which lean big. Read up before your first monster dildo.
• Dragons and everything else (the same design rules apply).
• Why Are Fantasy Sex Toys Marketed to Women?

Mostly habit. Most dildo marketing has been aimed at women for decades, and fantasy toys inherited the same product photos and the same shelf space. A lot of men see that and assume the whole category isn't meant for them.

The toys don't know who's buying. A curved silicone shaft with ridges on it works on anatomy, and that includes yours.

What Do Fantasy Sex Toys for Men Actually Do?

Prostate play, first and foremost. The prostate sits a few inches inside, toward the belly, and a curved fantasy shaft is shaped to press on it. Texture makes that pressure roll as you move (a smooth toy just stays flat). Our guide to the P-spot covers where it is and why it feels the way it does.

If prostate play is the main reason you're looking, the octopus dildo is the shape to read up on.

There are other reasons too:

• A suction base sticks to tile or glass, so you can go hands-free at your own pace.
• Many fit a harness, which makes them easy to share with a partner.
• Honestly, they're fun. A toy that looks like nothing else in the drawer takes some of the seriousness out of it.

What Makes the Best Fantasy Dildo for You?

The one that fits where you are now, made from the right material. Check these before you buy:

• Material. A silicone fantasy dildo is non-porous and can be properly cleaned. Skip jelly rubber and PVC.
• Curve. A forward curve is what reaches the prostate.
• Widest insertable diameter. This decides your first session more than length does.
• Base. Flared or suction, wide enough to stay outside the body.
• Texture. Gentle ridges are easier to start with than big knots or bulbs.

Should You Start With a Huge Fantasy Dildo?

No. A huge fantasy dildo is something you work up to. Start medium; go bigger in small steps once that feels easy. Our guide to anal training covers how to size up without rushing it.

Do You Want a Dildo or a Plug?

That depends on whether you want movement or fullness. A dildo is for movement. A plug goes in, stays put, and lets you get on with other things. Here's how a tentacle butt plug compares to a tentacle dildo.

Which Fantasy Toys Does GIDDI Carry?

The Kraken Tentacle Dildo has eight inches of raised, wrapped ridges with a gentle curve for prostate contact. Premium liquid silicone, a suction base for hands-free use, and it works in a harness.

The Octoprobe Rotating Prostate Massager has a head that rotates against the prostate, a hands-free shape, and a wireless remote. It's waterproof and USB rechargeable.

The Octoprobe Tentacle Dildo has suckers that grow toward the base and a curve for prostate contact.

The Slitherine Silicone Fantasy Cock Ring has raised texture on the outside for a partner to feel, and enough stretch to go on and off easily.

So, Is It for You?

If you've got a prostate and some curiosity, yes. Pick silicone with a forward curve, in a size you can actually take. Ignore whoever the packaging was aimed at. Browse GIDDI's fantasy sex toys to find your first one.